Do you ever have the best intentions and yet feel like they just aren't enough? A friend of mine and I had a conversation about adult friendships and the constraints they face. You want to talk to your friends every day like you used to when you were in high school, but can't seem to pull it together. The demands of work, family, home responsibilities and, in many cases, children just pile up and make social time difficult. Those of us who are honest will own up to the fact that most of time, you just don't want to talk to anyone after 8:30 at night.
I live life feeling as though I don't have enough to give and some things have to fall by the side...for me that has been that daily friend. Don't get me wrong, I am blessed with many friends. People I work with that I adore, who get me through the day, and know more about me than most. I have a core group of girls who I see once a month. We have dinner, laugh, cry, share our lives and it has been amazing to watch us all ebb and flow. Some of them have been with me through all the major milestones, tragedies and joys of my adulthood! I have some long time friends where the connection is just there and it is as though time stands still in between the phases where we talk and don't talk.
And then there are online friendships. The ones that seem the easiest to foster because you do it on your terms, when you can fit in that quick second. You share your stories and look for support. Those relationships are real and are solid. I can just think about my CHA girls...there is a bond that is very strong. Three years ago, I started traveling to see my Scrapstreet girls. People who know me find it odd that I would fly out to spend a week with people I hardly know. But I do know them. And here is the thing, when you see people in short bursts like that, you are just happy to see them. No judgements, only exceptance...you can be happy, annoying, grumpy or hyper...they are just happy to see you. Having that clean slate is very liberating...it allow you to be the best you and if you are not, it's okay.
My time with these girls since CHA isn't what I want it to be, but that is okay, because it is unconditional. At this point in life, unconditional is the only way to go! So here's to my friends: